“If they want to cut and run, I haven’t invested too much of myself in it.”But in the future, she thinks she’ll take her time disclosing as long as she gets it done before engaging in sexual activities that would put the other person at risk.“On a first date with this wonderful guy, I told him, and he couldn’t handle it,” she says.
It can also be asymptomatic, so most people with herpes don’t know they have it, which is a large part of the reason why it’s so prevalent.
Around two-thirds of people worldwide under age 50 have herpes simplex 1, according to the World Health Organization, and around one in every six Americans between ages 14 and 49 has genital herpes, usually caused by herpes simplex 2, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
But use your best judgment as to how physically intimate you want to get before telling.
One thing could lead to another, and you might find yourself in an awkward situation. The person you're seeing may beat a hasty retreat when he or she finds out you have genital herpes.
Although herpes is one of the most prevalent sexually transmitted diseases, it’s shrouded in stigma.