Again, this is difficult to do with services that prohibit you from providing ample information about yourself, so the next best thing is to be honest with yourself and the person you're talking to — whether it's within the first message or on the first date.
And then, that guy brought his friends along, and I realized that ... For example, I learned that I wanted to put the date back in dating, and that I abhorred the phrase, "Want to hang out?
" It was too casual, and I always ended up disappointed.
Webb's thesis, essentially, boils down to the idea that there are many search variables on some services (age, location, religion, smoking or nonsmoking, height, if you'd sleep with a pet in your bed, when you'd sleep with a significant other, etc.), and you can use these variables to work in your favor.
With this in mind, if you are very specific about what you want — and who you are — you can weed out a lot of mismatches who might seem ideal from the outset, but are very much not for you.
"Data: A Love Story" by Amy Webb chronicles Webb's journey as she looks for love on the internet.