Let’s strip sexual activity of all it’s damaging implications and bring it back to what it is: just sex. And if that pep talk isn’t enough, how about this statistic?
We’ve done the research and here it is, straight-up: There’s nothing wrong with having sex on the first date. A 2012 Singles in America survey found that 55 percent of singles reporting having had sex on the first date (66 percent of men; 44 percent of women).
They’re awkward, they usually involve some kind of drink or meal that you’d rather not share with a stranger, and there’s always that hesitant question at the forefront of both your minds: Thanks to a lot of poodle skirts and antiquated ideas about dating, first-date sex has become a topic of controversy, with many of us still believing in the shameful stigma attached to it.
If you both are into each other, then there’s no good reason not to enjoy each other more.
According to the 2012 Singles In America study, 41 percent of New York men regard sex on the first date as “very appropriate” or “somewhat appropriate.”So don’t be hesitant on the guy’s behalf.
Why put all this power and judgment into the hands?
And moreover, why would you want to be with a man who judges women in this way?
Perhaps that skepticism is coming from your own insecurities about having sex.