(But, you’re a city mouse and totally adept at multi-tasking, right?You’ll be fine.) Location-based apps, like Coffee Meets Bagel, have expanded the pool of possibilities and created a previously unexperienced ease.Our hyper-distracted temperament, grass-is-greener FOMO, and impatient demands to get everything, like, yesterday are rewriting the rules of dating quicker than you can say "swipe right." What was once an afternoon (fine, a lonely Sunday evening) spent trawling Ok Cupid is now a five-minute Tinder blitz during a treadmill run. Boundaries are being crossed, rubbed out, and re-drawn.
For many, this new landscape has made dating more fun, more diverse, and more empowering than ever. Hold on tight; we’re not in Kansas anymore…In the city, we’re all very busy, and time is the most precious of all our assets.
We command instantaneous communication, real-time news, and 24/7 information, and our dating attitudes now reflect the same warp-speed principles.
You get BOMBARDED by emails from fifty and sixty something Baby Boomers looking to trade up in the world. Yet these men keep on writing – talking about how they’re young for their age, how they’d love to have children, how they have everything in life except a good younger woman. Understand, Dale, there is nothing wrong with you being attracted to a fertile and youthful woman in her 30’s. Instead of searching through hundreds of thirtysomething women who wouldn’t give you a second look, Reverse Match shows you who IS open to dating a 56-year-old man.
You double check your profile to see if there’s something you wrote that’s attracting these older men. If you’re 36, you’re pretty darned confused by these emails. By the time the kid is in high school, Dad will be 74! There’ll be fewer numbers, but at least you won’t be wasting your time. There are a lot of amazing ones out there and they are criminally underappreciated.
Joel Simkhai, CEO and founder of Grindr, tells us, “I wanted a more spontaneous way to meet guys, but had no idea it would become such a hit.